When a man asks you to commit, or where you think the relationship is headed before you even have a clue, the response you have been using so far is excellent. You could soften it if you want by saying: “I really like you, and I enjoy your company, but I’m not quite ready for a commitment yet. I hope you understand, and I hope we’ll be able to spend more time getting to know each other.” The guy who disappears after you make this announcement was not your Mr. Right.

Let me get this off my chest: I’m not interested in bringing out a man’s competitive side. I’m not interested in manipulating anybody. I usually advise people not to commit to early because, I mean, why would you? Don’t you want to know you’re committing to the right person? How can you possibly know that if you’ve cut off all other suitors? How do you know you’re with the one when he’s the only one you’ve allowed yourself to consider? So, good for you. What’s the rush?

I am interested in leading a life full of possibilities. I am interested in falling in love and staying in love. I am interested in having someone fall in love with me and stay in love with me. And I definitely increase my chances when I see a number of people, and I don’t commit to somebody purely out of the desire to have a steady boyfriend or wear a wedding dress. Now, your willingness to see a number of people has obviously rendered you quite attractive. So, good for you.

The guy who disappears after you make this announcement was not your Mr. Right. Who wants a guy who’s pushing too hard for a commitment right away? What’s the rush? After all, how well does he even know you? And, if you’re not feeling it, you’re not feeling it. He has to respect that. If he doesn’t respect your feelings, he’s telling you loud and clear that he’s not good boyfriend or husband material. Keep doing what you’re doing. Have fun. Love and luck to you! So, good for you.